Planning a Co-ed Shower: 3 Ways to Stay Sane

Does not grow on trees.

Be transparent and set about a budget with your co-hosts: Nothing is worse than sending, or receiving, the email that says “Hey Y’all, Please Vemno me $350 for Katie and John’s shower! Had a blast! Can’t wait for July!!!” Your fellow bridesmaids and groomsmen, CAN wait for July because they are going to need the time to understand why the low-key backyard BBQ party is costing all 16 of them $350. Project a budget and share it with everyone. More often than not it will spark some great ideas and allow Shannon to offer up her parent’s newly renovated backyard and pool as a venue, on the house. A win for ambiance, and a win for your wallet!

If you are a control freak - ask to handle ONE portion of party: You CANNOT do it all and no one wants to hear about you doing it all. Claim the invitations, the drinks, the food, the games or the music and then let your type A personality drive you, and only you, crazy. But again, be sure to stay within the budget. Remember this party isn’t about you, but it doesn’t mean you can’t crush your area!

Let "ghost hosting" and check writing be enough: Remember, sweat equity and face time are not pillars that all bridal party members live by. Save yourself the breath and high blood pressure, and let it go! If Janet can’t fly in from San Diego and Brian hasn’t offered to help set up or clean up, get over it. Unless a groomsman is physically hosting the party or offered to tackle one area - expect a Vemno and consider it a success. Collect their checks, add their name to the invitations and get on with the FUN! Life, and this party, is too short to complain about old so-and-so not even offering to help set up the drink table!